Torn Apart
Chris, 16 yr old guy, Texas
“There’s a girl I’ve always known pretty much all my life it seems. We had classes together in elementary, and after freshman year began, we had 5th period together. We talked, but not a lot. Sometime throughout the year, I got her screen name from a friend.
Karyn and I talked all the time online during the following summer, and it eventually progressed into us talking until 5am every night. We seemed perfect to each other. School started and we tried not to act like a couple. 6 months into our wonderful relationship, something happened, and we have never been the same. It’s been almost 11 months since we started out, and now we’re only friends.
The problem started one day when a friend of mine, Brandon, suddenly started talking badly about Karyn. He said she was ‘lower’ than me and I shouldn’t be dating someone like her. There was a big scene and I got angry. The very next day everything was settled with my friends, and I had proved my point.
I had to tell Karyn about it, because I didn’t want her to hear about it any other way. I called her and I told her over the phone that things were taken care of and not to worry. But, she was devastated, so I told her to come over. We talked things through, I held her for a while and then she went home.
She still hangs out with my friends and me. But, ever since then, she feels as if she doesn’t really belong and that she just shares my friends. I don’t think this is true, but she does and has been really upset about this. Ever since then, we’ve had lots of problems. I know there’s not much I can do about it. I love her with all my heart, and we’ve had so many great times together. Our friends have been the source of our problems and I would give everything up for her, but I know that leaving my friends is not the answer.
Because of this incident, everything has spiraled out of control and our relationship hasn’t been the same. It’s a fact of life that sometimes, some things just can’t be fixed. Love is real, and its what holds me and Karyn together to this day, even if we’re just friends. I still hold her hand and wipe her tears.
It really makes me sad. I still love her so much, but why do our friends have to ruin our relationship? Our problems are because of our friends, who are from two totally different worlds it seems. They have torn us apart.”
